The Comparison

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"Everyone lives like that, you're not the only one having a hard time." 
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These words...i think that's one of the worst ways in the world to comfort someone. Making comparisons of the person with other people.
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There's that saying too, "The courage to live, the courage to die." that kind of saying, i think that's the absolute worst way to comfort someone.
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Comforting a tired person, a depressed person, a difficult person, an exhausted person ... thinking about these things, instead of thinking about these things and do something else,"hey you're having a hard time and feeling exhausted, you feel tired, you're thinking negative thoughts, i think it'll be better to use that energy and quickly, quickly move around and get back in order." saying the kind of thing...
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The truth is the person also knows that.
They know that they should quickly start moving again.
They wish, so much, that they could. But they can't do it.
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From what you can see with your eyes, a physical wounds is different from a wound in the heart. That's why i think when comforting someone, we should consider what might be happening that we can't see with our eyes.
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Of course, in these short writing, there have definitely been times where i hurt someone and i've also experienced getting hurt. This is just something i've wanted to talking about.
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When comforting someone, instead of making comparisons, comparing that person to myself or to others, i think it's better to just listen to that person about him/herself.




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